By Anna Von Reitz
Once again, I am being accused of "eroticism" because I described a simple technique to reduce anxiety and promote well-being without the use of drugs: shoulder kissing.
How scandalous and how pathetic that a compassionate way to help one another survive in this ugly world is reduced to a quasi-sexual come on in the minds of those starved for simple touch.
At least one third of the American population is suffering from Skin Hunger and at least half of those are chronic cases characterized as Skin Starvation.
These are people literally "starving" for simple touch interaction with other people. To them, a handshake, a peck on the cheek, any contact at all, good or bad, can seem sexual in nature.
Why? Because they are starved for simple touch to the extent that they have become hypersensitive.
The commercialization of sex started in the nineteenth century with Queen Victoria who had, all told, thirteen children. The Hypocrites sought to -- with a determined program of social prudery -- increase the commercial value of sex by suppressing all natural expressions of physical affection.
It's the same old story, the Doctrine of Scarcity. Increase price by reducing supply.
Even then, they were involved in profiting from human trafficking and prostitution.
So now the victims of this are left in an unhealthy state of sensory deprivation, pent up and unable to relax and be normal. Their cortisol levels spike through the roof and they gain weight and that just makes them less attractive. A vicious cycle of alienation and deprivation ensues.
I have seen people so starved for touch that they run to doctors hoping that someone will touch them, even making up imaginary illnesses, in pursuit of simple, safe touch. These individuals almost universally suffer from a bad self-image, loneliness, social alienation, and disorientation.
Perhaps worst of all, they start valuing touch so much, that it inverts and they engage in the most appalling prudery, denying to others what they long for themselves --- a subconscious "if I can't have it, then neither can you" response.
The plague of skin hunger is worst for children and the elderly, but it impacts a considerable number of otherwise healthy adults, too.
The way out of it is to become aware of the problem and begin solving it. How? By de-commercializing sex and making simple touch part of our daily lives again.
What do I mean by "simple, safe touch" --- just exactly what the words imply. Nothing complex required. A simple shoulder rub, a hug, a pat on the back. Shoulder kissing is slightly more involved and more intimate, but nothing that should make anyone blush; the only erogenous zone encountered is the throat, and "chaste kisses" are not calculated to evoke any sexual response in a normal healthy adult.
We can help each other by providing simple touch and making it "safe" -- without sexual intent or overtones. As explained in other articles, kissing is more complex in terms of sensory data transmission and impacts both sender and receiver in ways that are more enriching, but kisses are not tied to sex.
It's the old blame the guns for murders False Premise.
Kisses are tools in a sensory data arsenal. They can convey approval, acceptance, compassion, security, and well-being, or they can be used to convey passion.
If your intention is to comfort someone and relieve their anxiety, you can easily modulate your energy and your kiss to create the desired effect. If you are going for something else with shoulder kissing, that's your business.
Your visionary triggers are not my fault or responsibility. It's not me pushing any eroticism, it's your own starvation and imagination filling in dots I didn't create.
Skin hunger is a serious social problem and is a terrible, chronic unmet need for a large percentage of the population. It's a condition that was largely unknown prior to the nineteenth century, but it is now rampant. So face up and take stock.
Are you starved for touch? What can you do about this?
Many men turn to prostitutes, which was the intention of the creators of the social prudery -- who profit from human trafficking and prostitution.
This is not rocket science.
Self-massage used to be synonymous with masturbation, but it no longer is. You can learn to touch your own body in other ways and do exercises that calm your neural net, reduce anxiety, and promote health. You can also use your incredible brain and common sense to develop ways of touching others that are more intimate and deeply compassionate, without sexual intent.
The more touch you have in your life, the less likely you are to make assumptions about sexual contexts that your own unmet needs imply.
Let your Grandma clue you in. It's your mind that is sexy. It's your awareness that's sexy. A kiss is a note in a symphony you write.
If, as I intended, the practice of shoulder kissing leaves you reassured and comforted, reattached to the cosmos and blissfully at peace -- chances are you already have enough touch in your life and are doing okay one way or another.
If, instead, merely going through the steps in your mind awakens dormant passion --- son, daughter --- you are suffering some degree of skin hunger and repression. You need to think about that, admit that to yourself, and take appropriate (non-commercial) action.
This "society" we live in has twisted and deprived and manipulated our most basic needs and drives in ways that are purely evil and self-interested. All to make a buck.
It's up to us to use our own intelligence and basic kindness to see through all the self-interested BS and fear they create to increase their profit margins.
Granna
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